Exes Don't Believe They Have To Change!!!

I don't think that dating your ex is a good thing, I believe in giving people a second chance but I don't think you should give your ex another chance at your heart and if you do it's definitely at your own risk.

I'm not saying that dating your ex is a horrible thing to do and it might work out for some people but I'm finding out that it will not work out in most cases.



The problem being that people (whether men or women) thinks things remain the same when the relationship starts again but that couldn't be further from the truth. Things will be different and should be different, one learns from their mistakes and make changes accordingly. You're experiences changes you and your perspective so what ever happened the first time around in the relationship will surely not happen again.

I find myself in a peculiar situation being that I'm talking to two of my exes and both of these men think I have changed and similarly both men have hurt me, which resulted in toughing me up a bit. I wouldn't say it was a bad thing for me to get a thicker skin because your girl (ME) was naive to the max, easily trusted people and always wanted to find the good in people. That's fine to have these traits and all but they are also fatal flaws and one must learn to view people as suspects as a precaution.

So both times with each of my exes we have tried to rekindle things but each time they have turned me off by expecting me to put up with their old antics. Neither one of them have gone out their way to try to regain my trust or win over my affection all I have gotten is some texts stating "coulda, shoulda, woulda's", sexting, and some (MATURE CONTENT) pics!!!

I have tried to explain to them that I was too easy the first time, easy in every way, this time they will have to work harder for my love! I've told them you need to shower me with things, take me out, and spend time outside of the house together. I'm getting the feeling that they would rather shack up instead.

Well I say NO to that! Why can't I have what I want? A real honest relationship that reciprocates love and affection? I suppose the answer is I CAN just not with either one of them! I'm not the same any more, I met these boys when I was just a meek little girl unsure of herself but now I'm a woman and I'm comfortable in my skin, I'm sure of myself, I most definitely know my worth and what I deserve and how I should be treated.

So this is why no one should date their ex....they don't believe they have to change!