Well my number one purpose for wanting marriage is for my own personal joy. I know marriage will complete my overall dream for my life. I always knew that i wanted to be somebody's wife. My second purpose is to be a model of what a blk family should be (if my family turns out rite). Sit back and actually think about the question. Are u wanting to get married bc its the rite thing to do or is it bc of money? See what u come up with u mite b surprised!
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I got married the first time because I had a vision in my head of the life I wanted. It was that stereotypical American Dream complete with nice house in a good neighborhood, stay-at-home wife, kids, nice cars, money in the bank, manicured lawn, etc., etc.. I found someone who fed all of my needs at the time and couldn't wait to get married. I was so smitten with this dream coming true, I ignored all the warning signs. After 15 hard years, we finally just couldn't fight any more and gave up.
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I feel so foolish for the first marriage. I am truly blessed by the second.
Peace!
Dwight