Father's day: Learn from mistakes

spending father's day together as a family...the true spirit of this holiday is to thank the fathers... some are extraordinary, some are avg, some are far below avg. Despite their status WE ARE HERE!! (Mama can't make a baby by herself).


Today I wont be bitter but I will carry hope in my heart that one day the daddies that aren’t superb will one day have an epiphany and strive to be better. Today I appreciate all the fathers, the one’s that are deceased (RIP Maurice Adams), the one’s that are absent, the one’s that are in their children lives, and the step fathers (its hard for a man to love a child that is not his own!!!). I appreciate them all because they all make a lasting impression on us. The impression is for you to determine…some will be loving and some will be disappointing. If you happen to be on the disappointed end my hopes for you is that you learn and grow. For future fathers and for the already young fathers you must learn that the world doesn’t owe you anything, stop to think and reflect upon yourself. If your father wasn’t there for you don’t play into the vicious cycle of bad fathers. Make a promise to become better than your father, give the world to your child even if its only your love. Children aren’t concerned with material things, their first NEED coming into THIS WORLD is LOVE, AFFECTION and GUIDIANCE. The material things (I mean the wants, stuff that is not necessary for survival ) comes secondary!!!! Make a promise to always be there for your children to be there no matter how old they get and no matter how much trouble they get into!!! To the single mothers my hopes for you is to remain strong and to stop talking bad about the father’s in front of your children. Your children aren’t aware of how sorry the man is until YOU bring it to THEIR ATTENTION!!! Let the child find out on their own and let THEM FORM AN OPPINION FOR THEMSELVES!!! Lord please shine your grace on fatherless children so that when they have children (especially boys) the will use their experiences to raise a better generation!!!! One day may no one go through the pain in hurt of not having a parent there for them!! Today I’m not trying to be a hypocrite, I’m simply trying to make peace with this day. I can’t truly say I have forgiven my own father for his stupidities, (forgiveness probably won’t occur until many years later), but I needed to enlighten myself and others that we can use our predicaments to our advantage!!!! WE ARE NOT THE ONE’S THAT LOOSE!!!! 

Sunday, June 20, 2010